Following my "Calling"


Often times, dreams are just dreams and a passion is just a passion. 
But then there’s a calling, a calling that you always felt you’ve had ,
a calling for you to find your destiny , a path to be your better self and to help others that are less fortunate . 
Dreams are never just dreams and a passion is always more than just a passing emotion .  a passion is always more than just a passing emotion .  
Khineder Creations (pronounced ‘Kinder’ Creations) is founded with a passion to help . And there are just so many people, causes and things to help .We are dedicated to supporting struggling mothers, survivors of domestic violence and sex trafficking. With that set as a mission, the purpose of finding natural remedies based on traditional cooking recipes to heal skins was born.
The store with products made by survivors and skincare products handmade
by mothers was opened a little over a year ago in Emmaus , Pennsylvania .
Today, the products are not only helping families with skin problems around the world but the proceeds are also supporting survivors and their children to
continue with their education and in finding their own passions .
Never ignore your calling and never underestimate the power of what you can
achieve when you have a passion. No matter where we come from, we all have
a purpose in life . Make that purpose something you can be proud of and something that makes you smile even when you’re stuck in traffic in the middle of a very hot day . 
And offer kindness .
Being kind to yourself and others around you is free and is incredibly rewarding. 

And offer kindness .
Being kind to yourself and others around you is free and is incredibly rewarding. 
And know this~ it takes more than just a will to survive . If you know a
survivor and are one , know that your courage is amazing and the world is
rewarded with your presence . Friends at every corner of the world are waiting
for you to share the goodness and kindness that only you can offer.
 
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If you got an idea from any of these posts,
  do share with us. We love hearing from our supporters and get connected with like-minded souls.
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Live , enjoy and be kind . 
With Kind Regards-
Khine

 

 

 Purpose 


This morning I had the pleasure of attending a very informative business Symposium. I admire the keynote speaker Catherine Bailey very much and her message was very encouraging , nourishing and really got me thinking about my own journey in business as she shared her feelings about ‘succession’. 





Quite often, as a business owner I’m asked to share my experience of founding a business based on passion _ as a woman , as an immigrant , as a mother and how to create a business blueprint that really reflects my identity . And many times I find myself not having a concrete answer . Simply  because I did not and am not following a traditional structure. To start with, I do not define the success of my business in terms of profit . It is growing and expanding as it is meant to be. I keep the size of my business exactly as I am comfortable with and do not allow monetary and fiscal policies effect the decisions I make. I tackle challenges with team effort and wholeheartedly believe in setting goals that are realistic for my team _ not me. The expansion and contraction of my business cycle relies heavily on how much I can authentically offer the unconditional love . My team and I thrive with love and the products we make are just a mere reflection of what we believe . Strange as it may sound to some, this is truly working for me and the people I work with whom I choose not to see and treat as employees but rather my family. 





14 years ago when I was doing my MBA, I did not have much direction in life . I don’t think I had a clear understanding of why I was doing what I was doing ! I know I did enjoy introducing myself as an “MBA student” at 22 . And I’m sure my teachers from Business school , whom are among my biggest cheerleaders here , are probably not gonna be very happy to read this but I have to be honest ~ all I remember from MBA was the SWOT analysis and General equilibrium theory 😬Please know that I feel really fortunate to have been enrolled in that program and that you all have engraved some serious lessons in my head that I cannot NOT apply these theories effectively (may be not so efficiently) in my daily life. Even when I decided to switch my major to Political Economy, they were immensely helpful. 





Education did not teach me my purpose in life . It gave me tools, great tools in realizing my purpose. I had to live throughout experiences and love every single one of them without any condition to know what my purpose in life is . Without knowing what our purpose in life is , we will never stop the search for “that something” aka “contentment”. Nothing can buy that feeling. The Dr. I’m able to put in front of my name did not do that . It may have opened a few doors and helped me network with connections that are important for my growth but I would still have felt the void in my heart and would still be planning for the next breakthrough , whether it’s finances , fame or family planning . And I am grateful that I have found that purpose through meditation and contemplation . If I didn’t live through those experiences, I would not have done meditation and definitely would not have the ability to contemplate. We cannot rush growth . Whether it’s physical , emotional , financial and especially spiritual . I know a few people who have super clear idea of what they want to do and how they want to achieve their goals from a very young age. These blessed souls are the ones changing the world because they have worked hard and earned this wisdom from the Divine . We may all not be born with those abilities and gifts but we can all manifest our dreams and we do not need to compare ourselves to another. There is no competition in growth . Each Star seed will shine in its own way and shine their light the way they are meant to shine. My father is probably the most disciplined , determined and driven individual I’ve ever known in my life. And his principles in life have profound impact on my life. He does not believe in many of my theories (not yet ;)) but he thinks I’m finally turning BS into “Best Strategy”! Right now from where I can see , everything I am doing is guided by my purpose . They may not have best strategies but they are definitely not BS . ❤️


6.13.19


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New Moon Manifestation

Happy Monday
And hello June
🌚

Kicking off this week (every week) with renewed hope, clear intentions and positive affirmations is always helpful in finding the courage to be ‘me’ under any circumstances. Positive affirmations are really the most effective, simplest tool that is considered as the core technique in manifestation – the reason being that they're simply the primary way our thoughts are formulated when we want to give them life.

I feel incredibly grateful that I’ve been coached properly on how to manifest because now , I don’t do anything anymore without manifesting ! By speaking them out loud, we give our thoughts even greater power.

Giving our bodies the right nourishment also plays a major role in manifesting . When you eat/ drink/sleep/train/rest well, you have more positive thoughts about yourself and when you are focused on staying in that energy , there is little or no room for any negativity to come in. So naturally , you start avoiding habits , people and patterns that do not serve your inner peace well. Once you see a glimpse of transcendent awareness , you will crave for peace and tranquility more than anything else for your soul.

Whenever doubt starts to creep in because things aren’t seeming to be giving you the outcome you desire , be reminded that everything happens in the divine timing . The Universe manifests your dreams and goals in its own way. The happier and optimistic you are , the better the outcomes are gonna be .

Life is only successful when we practice the art of cultivating love and happiness . Let that be part of our practice every day

6.3.19

 

 

Graduations ~ Gravity ~ Gratitude

Seeing , meeting and watching graduates 🎓 this week got me very emotional 😭

I graduated kindergarten in 1990, high school in 2000, my first BA in 2003, my second Masters in 2009 and doctoral in 2013 ~ boy did I love school 😅 I don’t have any pictures or memories of my first and probably the most important graduation but seeing my son in his little cap and gown , I can absolutely imagine ... not of my 5-year-old self but the joy of my parents.

Except for my doctoral graduation, my parents were there , at every single graduation 👩🎓 And every single time , they had this amazing, irreplaceable smile shining with pride . I never realized that until now . I was probably too overwhelmed with my makeup or outfit or after-party fun. And probably thought “ohh they’re parents ~ that’s what they do!” aka pay for all the expenses (expected and unexpected costs) , show up with a smile , treat my friends with generosity and being cool about everything . Perhaps I really took them for granted . And I don’t think they ever minded . Not with me , not with my three younger siblings . They were not “doing their job”. They were really happy to see us reaching milestones and celebrating life.

So, here’s to all the parents that are flooded with joy , pride and love 🥂 🍻 Congratulations on your children’s success. God bless you beautiful souls for your patience and tolerance in dealing with the headaches of picking up the dresses, choosing the caterers , renting the venue , and the endless lists of the graduation parties.
Please don’t forget to enjoy yourselves . Remember that this is the fruit of your labor
😘

Lots and lots of love to you all

 

6.1.19

 

Every Experience is a Lesson

 

This quote was the first thing I saw when I woke up this morning :

 

“People think a soulmate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soulmate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.” – Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat Pray Love, Pg-149)

 

It is a reminder that some blessings come to us in disguise . And just because they are blessings , it doesn’t mean that there is no pain and suffering . In fact , pain and suffering are one of the most strongest emotions our bodies can feel _ the greatest teachers that can really help us connect with our higher selves to find solace , gratitude and unconditional love . If you believe in fairytale endings , you must also believe that every experience teaches us a lesson and every lesson , if we can really learn from it , brings us one step closer to our desired happiness.

5.31.19

 

 

Let there be rainbows

A day of many complex emotions and energy ~ one that had a few tornado warnings, torrential rains and golf-ball size hail that almost crushed my windshield.

First of all, is everyone okay ?
I hope and pray that you’re all safe and your family / homes are unharmed by this crazy storm we had a few hours ago. I had to do a thorough check of myself and my car , reluctantly , when I was finally able to park. Not because I was afraid to see if there was any damage but because I was worried I would never look at “ice” the same way again
😉 Talk about complex emotions, huh !!

I got home and realized that I left my windows and balcony door opened ! Embracing my beautifully soaked furniture, bed and pillows, toys , papers , leaves... remnants of hail sitting on my now dead herbs and broken pots that I painted for hours, I laughed . I don’t know why but I laughed with a relief . I laughed with consciousness . I laughed with a knowing that sometimes , in life , you just have to laugh and accept things as they are . I forgot to check the weather forecast and took the happy feeling I got after my morning meditation in the beautiful sunlight for granted and left all the windows opened . What can I say... I guess my apartment now had a deep cleansing 😉

The urge to delve deeper in that feeling of ‘relief’ continued so I took a drive .. a little further than I hoped . And then I found this . A double rainbow!

I have a confession to make : I never paid attention to rainbows until the beginning of this year . After all, it’s just a natural , meteorological phenomenon_ what’s there to really care about , right ?! Here I am , in the midst of this journey that I consider the most wondrous yet toughest process of my growth, I’m seeing rainbows a bit too often. Sometimes I feel as if they are divinely created to make sure I stay hopeful . Sometimes we had to leave where we love the most to find an affirmation of the path we chose . Sometimes we had to lose so much to gain something so valuable even if it may seem so small . And sometimes we had to go really far to find a rainbow that’s always been hanging over our head .

There’s always ALWAYS hope .
None of us are created to wander in the desert of despair endlessly. Trust that whatever you’re going through is only going to help you grow in ways that you cannot imagine . Trust in the synchronicities you are seeing because it is an affirmation that you are creating the highest vibrational energy . May every rainbow help you recognize that you have unconditional love for everyone and everything around you .

 

5.29.19

 

God wants us to prioritize Selfcare

 

To our KC family in U.S,

how was your Memorial Day weekend ?

We had a really gorgeous weather in the Northeast and it was perfect !
Yes, it was great to spend time with our loved ones and put all our effort in making sure the picnic, BBQ , kayaking , all that outdoor everyone wanted to do was perfect .. now it’s time to take care of ourselves
🧘

🌻It is okay to NOT have your bed made today .

🌻It is okay to NOT have a cleaned home .

🌻It is okay to NOT have laundry done .

🌻It is okay to NOT have your garden ready.

🌻It is okay to NOT think about what is the most nutritious , delicious meal plan for everyone this week.

🌻It is okay to NOT have your usual radiant smile.

 

🐸 It’s a rainy day for a reason ~ stay in (if you can) , enjoy “me time”, and know & believe wholeheartedly that “self care” is NOT selfish. Let your body and mind rejuvenate . And even if you have to be at work, you can still be in this mindset. Do not allow anyone , not your supervisor or co-worker ruin your mood . If anyone throws negativity at you, know that it’s THEM reflecting their deficiencies and just offer understanding and walk away. Because today, you ARE taking that break , and nothing or no one can disturb that !

 

5.28.19

 

 

Working Together

 

Long before I studied “Human Security” at Grad school, I always wondered :

-what does security really mean?
-who decides what security is for us (girls)?
-how should we feel when we’re (supposed to be) in a ‘secured’ place?
- how secure is really secured?

Yes, these are among many questions that most survivors ask in their heads when they don’t know what they’re supposed to look forward to. These questions are also frequently asked by kids that are born in poverty .

A few of us never have to worry about physical, financial and social security and are fortunate to have tools to tackle the challenges of mental and emotional security. There are many , MANY out there that do not have any means to understand security let alone enjoy it.

Today I had a chance to visit Boys and Girls Club of Allentown @little_lehigh610 that is trying give boys and girls “a second home” where they are cared for , can express their emotions , learn how to love themselves _among many things . I am in awe with the work that the kids are doing and how they are being mentored with whatever resources available at the club.

Youths , our future leaders, need every love and support they can get . Regardless of the circumstances they are in , they all want to grow into good men and women . They want to be of use for their families and communities . They want to become the good, successful, happy and moral parents . Until they can realize their dreams , they need love , support and guidance .

Please consider reaching out to donate your time , expertise and other means of support because there is only so much that the club Director and team of staff can do. Khineder Creations will be working closely with them and actively raising funds so please feel free to contact us if you are interested in getting more information.

We are able to do a few things alone . We are able to offer abundant opportunities and resources when we work together. There’s nothing more inspiring than having like-minded souls coming together to work for causes that they believe in. Let’s all work together!

 

Give your potentials a chance

 

Sometimes our ego blocks us from appreciating what we have until we lose it .  I wasn’t ready to open my heart to see these blessings before . I took a big leap of faith , started Khineder Creations and it’s the sweetest symphony of life . The soul connections , the friendships , the kindred spirits I have found in the past three years have taught me one thing ~ if you want to be really FREE, all you have to do is just follow your heart. Self-doubts , sadness, fears and worries will only keep you running with lower vibrational energy and keep you from tuning into your true self _ what you are meant to be in this (short) lifetime.

Do not let any fear stop you from becoming who you always aspired to be.

 

5.22.19

 

Have Faith

 

Baby steps = Embracing the urge to walk with fearless and determined attitude and ‘ready’ to enjoy whatever the results may be even if the legs might not be that strong yet.

 

5.21.19

 

 

 

 

Full Moon and rituals and us

 

What a gorgeous day to wake up to !

When you’re blessed with such warmth and sunshine , you must take it all in !!
And there is full moon tonight as well
🌕

Many years ago when I was conducting surveys in the rural areas, I was able to witness and enjoy different full moon rituals by various tribes and families. It was truly mesmerizing. From groups of individuals that practiced and believed in magical skills to ordinary folks, the ‘full moon’ gatherings in these villages in the countries I have visited was all about celebrating life and the abundance that the Universe has blessed us with. There was food , music, dance and warmth. Everyone was radiating with positive energy from these harmonious gatherings . That alone was enough to cast a protective spell on all of us .

Whether we live in a metropolitan area or in a cloistered habitat, we can create ways and means to bring more joy into our homes. If I choose not to leave my home for a walk , I would be stuck watching the neighbors’ backyard every single day https://static.xx.fbcdn.net/images/emoji.php/v9/t4c/1/16/1f642.png:)

I was reminded of this wonderful poem by Rumi as I stood there and listened to the sound of nature .

“How does a part of the world leave the world?
How can wetness leave water?

Do not try to put out a fire
by throwing on more fire.
Do not wash a wound with blood.

No matter how fast you run,
your shadow more than keeps up.
Sometimes it's in front.

Only full, overhead sun
diminishes your shadow.

But that shadow has been serving you.
What hurts you blesses you.
Darkness is your candle.
Your boundaries are your quest.”

May your weekend be filled with love

 

5.18.19

 

After the rain

 

Finally the sun is out
Consecutive rainy days , as cozy and peaceful as they may be , kind of made many of us feel malnourished , especially with Vitamin D

Lately , I’ve been made to become aware of setting “suitable” intentions for myself and for those around me that I would like to be of better service to. I’m getting “you’re ‘good-vibes-only gal’ “ comment frequently (some snarky but that’s ok 😉) but I can guarantee you , I am NOT. I am as much in the process of working my way through my vulnerabilities as you are.

For those of you that are already deep in the works , you know how challenging it is at times to set boundaries within ourselves so that the glimpse of light we started seeing will not go dimmed and keep shining throughout our journey.

Emotions are hard to control and in a culture where everything is demanded to be either over-simplified or made to appear sophisticated, we get confused easily. Our emotions , all of them, are valid. And I think advocating for what we believe is absolutely beautiful ~just need to NOT follow a toxic pattern. Whether it is our choice of lifestyle , political and religious beliefs or simply the choice of color for the season, we need to be mindful about how we communicate_ from our hearts , not from our ego . Proper communication always brings abundance of joy and prosperity. We cannot have healthy relationship with ourselves and others when we have ego hanging around . My mentor once told me everyday is a good day for the ego to die.
Let this day be that day .

 

5.15.19

 

Reflecting on Mother’s Day weekend 


Happy Monday 
💛
Whether you spent this past weekend being by yourself__ offering a much-needed alone time or being with your loved ones __creating beautiful memories , I hope you had a weekend that you really enjoyed .

 

 
This past weekend commemorates the 7th year since we turned our ancestors’ home in Salin (upper Myanmar) into a monastery that offers Dhamma teachings , meditation , retreats and shelter for families near and far. It was built in the late 1700s to early 1800s and if I remember correctly , of the four wings, two was destroyed during WWII and the remaining structure was rebuilt and used by my grandmother when she was raising my father with her two sisters and elderly parents in the 1950s. The remnants of the murals and the architecture from those days still serve as a reminder that when a house is built on a good foundation and cared for with love , it lasts for generations.


It is a mere coincidence that this year it falls on the Mother’s day but it certainly is significant for us . I grew up with my grandmother and her stories__ stories of her childhood , her memories of the Wars , her dreams for the future, stories that have tremendously shaped my outlook on life  . Many of the stories have faded in my memory and I wish I remember every detail . Now I can imagine myself as a mother of a little boy in some of her stories that I could piece together , knowing that somehow she is there guiding me in spirit and telling me to be patient every single time the “momster” wants to come out  . When I saw these photos yesterday, I felt her presence in this new establishment that is now serving love and solitude _ what she had always wanted to offer . To me , it somehow completed the Mother’s day __ my Mother’s Day, honoring the ever-present love and guidance of my grandmother Mi Maw at the home she loved so much . 


As women, sometimes we move through frequencies in life without noticing whether our bodies , mind and souls are in sync or not. Memories of our loved ones can serve as a sacred bridge that connects us to our souls and allows us to reflect on how far we’ve come and how little we feel regardless of these accomplishments, and how peaceful we could be when we let go of this desire to be ‘everything’ that we think we need to be. I see Mi Maw everyday when I go to work __ the little jar of cream that bears her name serves as a reminder that while I may not be a medical doctor that I thought I needed to become , I am somewhat able to offer healing with my current work. So every time the sadness and guilt comes and taunts you , makes you doubt your intentions , remember that you are where you are right now , at this moment , for a reason bigger than you may know . And if you can take a break and really allow your mind and body to connect , you will see what an incredible journey you have been on and that it is only going to get better . 

 

5.13.19


Let it go..let it grow 

This week , I’d like to encourage all of us to set our intentions to ‘let go’ . Letting go is one of the most difficult things to do . From a piece of clothing to a pair of shoes to traces of memories, it is hard to let go. And if you are an affectionate soul like yours truly , get ready for some epic meltdowns when you say your good-byes . I’ve done it this past weekend . Hours of cleaning my cluttered emotional closet needed more than Mari Kondo and long walks in the nature . You need more inspiration than that . What if we can achieve the one thing we want so badly by letting things go ? What if we can really find happiness by doing so ?
“Happiness”~ a ginormous word that creates so much anticipation and requires so much work . Don’t you agree ?!
“Is happiness free ?.. how do we make it long-lasting? ..does it come with conditions?.. how do we even know we actually have real happiness in our lives- what is ‘real’ happiness anyway ? “
 
We ask and are asked these questions quite often. Financial stability , marital success, children, great health , achievements at school and work, good communication make most of us happy to a certain degree. Being happy doesn’t always mean we feel content . Likewise , being generally content in life doesn’t mean we have ‘found’ happiness. If you are mindful about what you do every day and are in acceptance of every situation, without a doubt , you live a peaceful , content life. You may or may not even bother with happiness being an active nutrient in your life . You might be surprised to learn that many people actually “settle” for a general contentment in life and stop looking for happiness because life is short and we have so much to accomplish and so many people to take care of , and do not have time nor energy to believe in some imaginary, phantasmagoric “happiness”.
 
But I do .
For a period of time , I believed that being content is harder to achieve and is more important than being happy . Now I believe that I can be both content and have genuine happiness in my life . Here’s a few things I learnt recently . Perhaps you might find it useful in some ways.
 
It is axiomatic that we accept ourselves in every situation whether to find happiness or not . The moment we accept ourselves _our reality , and that we are enough , we are liberated from our own control. We stop projecting outcomes that are not fact-based . We are no longer stuck in time and space where our energy is being used for something or someone that may never be available for us. Meditation helps me heal and harmonize my thoughts , my impediments and my gifts altogether to create a new potential . I believe happiness does not have a specific definition and does not come with a timeline. Some pains shake us enough to be malleable. Whenever you experience such pain, use that for your growth. Pain is one of the greatest teachers in life. When you realize that you are still capable of believing that there is happiness out there and that you deserve it , and after going through such pain, you are still hopeful, you will know with your whole heart the next time you find happiness that it is real. When your heart is open, you are receptive and you are healing . Happiness will enter your life without you even realizing it . I believe that happiness follows when we let things grow organically. Happiness is a wonderful energy . When there is so much clutter , it cannot enter your space. So let it go... and let it grow.
 
4/15/2019


L.O.V.E

Happy Monday 🧡
How was your weekend ?
Mine turned out to be really good .. honestly very inspiring.

I had the privilege of completing Reiki level 1 with some amazing souls and cannot thank our Reiki Master Mary Benner @clearpathwellnesslv enough for her wonderful coaching , guidance and most importantly, love .
How was your weekend ?
Mine turned out to be really good .. honestly very inspiring. I had the privilege of completing Reiki level 1 with some amazing souls and cannot thank our Reiki Master Mary Benner @clearpathwellnesslv enough for her wonderful coaching , guidance and most importantly, love .
Bringing that sacred energy and love , I’d like to kick off this new week with a set of strong intentions~ starting with giving up on any kind of reaction that will cause anger, frustration, and remorse . It is easier said than done .. and I’d have been asking “How can we do that.. not get angry when someone purposely show disrespect or annoy you intentionally?
Yes, every action triggers a reaction. But we are in-charge of how we react . Fully! Let’s put LOVE upfront , like wearing a pair of sunglasses 🕶 .. and let this pair not only block unwanted ultraviolet rays but also all kinds of negativity. We may not be able to block all the negative energy that is coming at us and around us but we are fully able to protect ourselves from reacting with anger, frustration and any response that will not make us feel good .
“Everyone is evolving at their own rate no matter what . Whether someone is “letting” them or not is irrelevant. The best thing you can do for someone you love is to be LOVE. Love yourself ! Love others , Love your life ! Love the contrast ! Love your journey ! Love their journey! When you allow your light to shine bright, it envelopes others and show them what is possible . You living your best life has more positive effects on people you love more than you could ever know. We are all evolving at our own rate , there is no right or wrong timeline. Everyone really is doing the best they can from where they stand. There is so much to love in this world! There is so much to love about yourselves (everything) ! The more unconditional love you put into this life experience about everyone and everything , the more you get back. Love because it feels good to love , not because they are being loveable. “ - Abraham Hicks
 
4/8/2019


Take the Plunge
Spring is here .. or so it seems .
Watching my God daughter and my best friend enjoying “Hanami”_ a very popular Japanese culture , a social gathering of  friends and family to enjoy cherry blossom together with lots of yummy food and drinks ~
🍶日本酒sake and Umeshu 梅酒/ plum wine 🍷 are a must and of course , a ton of photographs 📸 _ in Komaba , my home for 6 years, certainly makes me feel nostalgic. 

It has been 6 years since I left Tokyo . It has been 6 years since I received my doctoral degree . It has been 6 years that I have been on this new journey , with my little boy , with new friends and acquaintances, with new hopes and goals. 6 years of my life in Tokyo seemed extremely long compared to this past 6 years in United States. Have you ever experienced that ? Have you ever wondered that why some moments seemed longer than the others ? .. that why we are unconsciously stuck in some periods of our lives and couldn’t really seem to move on from that ?  

Some may say that I’m probably having too much fun here that time is passing so quickly . It is true to some extent . My mother has blessed me with the ability to have fun no matter how gloomy or depressing the situation is . But I can guarantee you that these past 6 years in the United States have been the most colorful moments of my life . A lot of growth has happened . Like every growth, it comes with joy and pain, with both desired and undesired outcomes. What I learnt during my 6 years in Tokyo couldn’t have prepared me for what challenged me here . 

It has been 6 years since I left Tokyo . It has been 6 years since I received my doctoral degree . It has been 6 years that I have been on this new journey , with my little boy , with new friends and acquaintances, with new hopes and goals. 6 years of my life in Tokyo seemed extremely long compared to this past 6 years in United States. Have you ever experienced that ? Have you ever wondered that why some moments seemed longer than the others ? .. that why we are unconsciously stuck in some periods of our lives and couldn’t really seem to move on from that ?  
Some may say that I’m probably having too much fun here that time is passing so quickly . It is true to some extent . My mother has blessed me with the ability to have fun no matter how gloomy or depressing the situation is . But I can guarantee you that these past 6 years in the United States have been the most colorful moments of my life . A lot of growth has happened . Like every growth, it comes with joy and pain, with both desired and undesired outcomes. What I learnt during my 6 years in Tokyo couldn’t have prepared me for what challenged me here . 
It is those memories I’ve made with my friends and classmates , those long hours I’ve spent peacefully at the library, those walks I took after midnight in Komaba campus with my fellow night owls  _ feeling giddy and getting fat with oily ramen, those moments where I saw a collective nod and a smile on the scariest professor’s face during my final thesis defense ... that have helped me stay hopeful. They didn’t make me who I am but they certainly helped pave the way of who I wanted to become. 


I am still as frightful as I have always been , of uncertainty, of rejection , of being a disappointment, of lacking confidence, of unpreparedness, of many many things . Perhaps these worries are now running with a different frequency then 6 years ago . There is nothing really stopping me from making new incredible memories with the cherry blossoms here , is there ? Of course , other than my fears . While I am reminiscing the memories attached to the Hanami in Tokyo, my mind and body are both telling me to the take the plunge and face those fears , all of it , together. There is no such thing as being a disappointment or a failure or undeserving or rejected unless we choose to feel that . I am going to make conscious decisions to change the attitude so that        I am no longer frightful.

Let’s take the plunge .


What’s there to lose ? ! 
3/22/2019


Be in the Moment
At 7:12 am this morning , I watched the sun rose from my balcony. I was just finishing this wonderful book called ‘Radically Happy’ given to me by my dear friend and exercising some awareness. There was still some darkness inside my apartment but the warmth was flowing in beautifully. I opened the windows and welcomed the crisp air , not expecting the sounds of Spring . A new season is coming ! I know that while many of us are “so done with winter”, I don’t think we would be craving for Spring this much if it weren’t for the cold , lonely , blue days of the long winter.
I took it all in.. the light , the warmth, the coolness, the birds chirping, the gravity.. all the mysteriously wonderful feeling only the sunlight at dawn is capable of giving . Thoughts of me walking on the shore and facing the Pacific Ocean was slowly replaced by this present space , the home I created with love . There is liberation , there is hope.. the moment we accept ourselves . I am in love with where I am and not where I want to be . I accept my present moment and not the moment I want to create with someone else . I choose to be in this moment rather than being in bed and snuggle up with my little boy . I am here on this day of March 14th, 2019, not a different Thursday. It felt incredible.
The meditation was nourishing and rejuvenating , so much so that I doubted for a second if the moment was real. I set my intentions to bring more hope and positive energy to every one in my life and around me during my meditation and felt an enormous amount of gratitude . I felt the presence of all my beautiful friends everywhere that are connected with me in spirit and my family on this exhilarating journey. You all helped me start this day with a smile . I don’t think I need “Throwback Thursday(s)” anymore . We will create another equally if not better Thursday(s), won’t we ?!
♥️
3/14/2019


International Women's Day Tribute  
Today is International Women’s Day ~ Our Day , ladies 😘
This day aims to bring attention to our accomplishments and challenges everywhere .
According to the most recent study done by the World Bank, only six countries
currently give women and men equal rights legal and economic equality between genders .Six is better than zero , but at this rate , CNN projected that women won't achieve full equality in the areas studied by the World Bank until 2073! Some of us may not live to see the day where both men and women
enjoy the same treatment and equal opportunities. Whether it is the fight to
end child marriage that still exists in many parts of the world , or the quest
for equal pay, or opportunities for little girls to be at school learning how
to read and write alongside their brothers , or empowering women to love their
bodies regardless of color, size and shape and religious believes , we still
have a lot of work to do .
 I don’t believe that women need to be empowered to have a voice ~ we just need to be empowered to use the voice we already have . Let us lend ours to those that are still overcoming challenges to use theirs . Women are strong , resilient, dedicated , compassionate and giving . Women are capable of making changes and adapting to changes under any circumstances. Women are brave , intelligent , funny and fiercely protective of what is theirs. Women are selfless and forgiving . The qualities we have are quite remarkable and together ,
we can make our homes and communities kinder , safer and happier.
Happy International Women’s Day to all my fellow ladies !
#internationalwomensday
3/8/2019


"I can't wait! Why do I have to wait? Why does it take so long!!"

Patience and timing is everything .

We could be doing all the right things and sometimes
we still won’t see the progress that we expect.
Have faith and believe that positive changes are GOING to happen
And believe in the power of natural healing. Even a broken heart can heal over

And believe in the power of natural healing. Even a broken heart can heal over
time so those acne scars you hate so much should heal in much shorter time 😉
3/6/2019


Women and Hair: A Reflection of Our Identity or a Costly Habit 

From early childhood , I have learnt that taking care of our appearance, especially our hair is crucial for our identity. Why that is crucial ~ I had no idea !
As a young adult, I became obsessed with having pimple-free skin and long , beautiful hair and would spend hours just doing research on how to get those accessorized on my body . No, I was not interested in eating healthy or getting enough sleep or taking care of my hair properly for any health reasons ~ it was all about “appearance”. A couple years ago, I did a study on 40 women that lived in the Lehigh Valley , New York City and Los Angeles. The women surveyed said that routinely, they spend around $380 per month on their “appearance” (hair care , skin care , etc) which adds up to over a quarter million dollars throughout their entire lifetime (ages 17-76) . And we spend this money consciously too! It doesn’t matter where we live.  It is the perception of “looks and appearances” that we all agreed to that makes us spend money happily.  

Over the past decade, I’ve tried numerous hair styles, dyes and cuts .
One thing I have constantly tried was getting permanent curls . (You can see me pouting in one picture where I was accepting my reality that it doesn’t matter whether I had just spent 2 hours at the salon getting the curls with a professional curling iron and hair sprays, bla bla bla ~ the curls do not last for than half hour at most !) I am embarrassed to say that I have spent a small fortune on that alone and I am horrified to figure out that I still have no regrets. Now that spending has been diverted to a new project : the chemical treatment . Since I started producing our own shampoo and conditioner, I am constantly testing and researching on the entirety of bleached hair.The amounts of money being invested in hair coloring is enough to make it a metaphor for an industry that is already skyrocketing. So far in the past six months , I have done at least 4 highlights , which means I have exposed my hair to bleach and coloring and chemical treatments more than I would like to. 

I teetered between getting curls and color and the researcher in me picked the color, hoping that I won’t go bald during the process and that all the fruits and vegetables I consume daily will continue to help strengthen my hair follicles. So far , my hair seems to be doing just fine with our shampoo and conditioner that are not branded as “treatment for colored hair” , “Instant Fix for damaged hair” , and all the labels you can think of. Natural remedies ~ simply powerful!

Whether it’s a girl in me that adores the sun-kissed curls or the woman who is passionate about healing chemically-treated hair naturally, I am among the billions that love and treasure hair. While we have tens of thousands of women that are getting rid of facial hair every single day , the same amount ( if not more) of men are rocking with facial hair! The results are both stunning and fascinating! Our hair is more than just an accessory. It signifies our believes, represents our cultures , our political and social status, our fun spirit and symbolizes our love for nature . It is a costly habit that we all adapt to love as it is an integral part of our identity. It gives us warmth and protection and sometimes it speaks the language for us too.  How many of us have found friendships over “hey I love your hair!” or “ wow the shaved head looks great on you!” _ the love language , the universal language that gains us smiles all the time .


Thank you so much for your wonderful participation in our surveys.
Your feedbacks are immensely helpful in improving the quality of not only our hair products but also in our study on redefining personal hygiene. My theories may not be applicable to everyone but I would say that taking care of your hair regularly with no chemicals means you are sending positive signals to your brains and when your brain is happy , you will have a visible glow . And taking care of scalp directly effects your skin health. Oily scalps contribute to breakouts and untimely baldness. I would say that taking care of your hair regularly with no chemicals means you are sending positive signals to your brains and when your brain is happy , you will have a visible glow . And taking care of scalp directly effects your skin health. Oily scalps contribute to breakouts and untimely baldness. And using the same pillow case where you rest that oily scalp and unwashed hair repeatedly will severely effect the clarity and glow of your skin . So think twice before you decide to go to bed next time especially after a day full of activities. You might want to wash that precious hair or beautiful scalp first.
3/1/2019


Every Action has A Reaction
Taking a break from a busy weekday in a space where my mind and body feels fully alive , energized and grateful. Because I did not settle for anything else but this ... this space where I am allowed to be creative, comfortable and challenged .
My amazing life coach Brandilyn Tebo whom you probably want to get connected with , shed some light on me and I want to share this with everyone :
“Feeling how you want to feel is non-negotiable. Only ego would keep you in a
relationship in which you don’t feel how you want to feel. When we settle for less than the way we want to feel, we do so out of fear of not being enough. And in the moment that we settle for less, we may be gaining a body that will occupy the space of our aloneness, but we lose ourselves, which is the worst kind of loneliness.”
This is very true.


We can apply this to every relationship we have ~ including the place we call “work.” And I know I may be irritating some of you that are feeling “stuck” with “career choice” and “work place.” You know how good you are . You know your passion and your dedication and you know you deserve nothing but the best _ the acknowledgement , the recognition and everything that reflects your hard work. If you’re not getting it , don’t settle. W e are 100% responsible for how we handle our reality .

Like Brandi said, “be the creator and stop reacting !” I am going to continue to block out relationships that will make me feel l need to settle . I hope you can too !
2/27/2019

 


We are Loved!
If you asked me a year ago if I’d find such joy in becoming friends with my neighbors , I’d be asking you “are you kidding me?” Here I am, blessed with these warm, funny , sweet and caring neighbors that not only show visible affection but also generously supporting my business and spiritual growth ~ I’m now asking myself “how did I get so lucky ?”
I think it all comes down to keeping my heart open and just letting the Universe take care of me . So it doesn’t matter whether we’re 15 or 30 years apart .. it doesn’t matter one is Italian , the other’s German and the next one is Russian connecting with a Burmese girl in a little town called Emmaus . We connected , we bonded and we absolutely love the energy whenever we all get together .

So don’t hesitate to say hi to your next door neighbor or invite them over for a cup of coffee . I see friendship(s) that will transcend generations right here . Keep your heart open and appreciate all the possibilities that the Universe is offering you . And if you’re feeling a little down and wondering if you will ever find such joy , please know and believe that you will. It took me over two decades to really start believing in anything that is genuinely good. It will happen for you . It will if it hasn’t started already.
 Have the courage to stay hopeful . It will happen for you . It will if it hasn’t started already.
You ARE loved
 2/24/2019
 


 Is your Heart Open?

Love comes in so many shapes and forms.
Some may say the heart beating loudly when you are around your love is a tangible form of love … some will argue that it is the tears of joy when you hold the love of your life in your arms . No matter how we try to top each other’s definition of love , love is the most beautiful thing we can feel...it does not have to be tangible to know the magnitude of it .
Today and every day I am reminded that the best way to receive love is to give love . When your heart chakra is open, you are flowing with love and compassion, you are quick to forgive, and you accept others and yourself. 

When your heart chakra is open, you are flowing with love and compassion, you are quick to forgive and you accept others and yourself.   Many people do not believe in chakras because they can't see them.  Any chakra system is a model that helps to explain how energy flows in the human bodies that exist on the higher levels of consciousness.

A closed heart chakra can give way to grief, anger, jealousy, fear of betrayal, and hatred toward yourself and others. The mantra sound corresponding to the fourth chakra is the sound YUM.  A special mantra to help expand love and compassion is OM MANI PADME HUM. You can repeat this mantra in meditation to gain greater access to these qualities.

2/14/2019